Have no Doubt – “Don’t Worry be Happy”
• No matter how proactive we become, there is always the chance of us being attacked suddenly. The first step in the worst-case scenario is recognition. If you are forced into a worst-case situation integrate all your energies into a single focused effort. Put every fiber of your being into the here and now. In a worst-case encounter, attitude is the determining factor. In this state, it is an in-your-face attitude with zero-doubt of victory that enables victory.
• Most human worries are based on not making a decision. “Don’t worry be happy” they say. Worry has been described, as interest paid on a debt that may never occur. Worry is a sustained fear based on indecision. Worry is negative goal setting. The antidote for worry is purposeful action.
• Define what you are worrying about
• Figure out what is the worst thing that could happen
• Agree to accept the worst-case scenario
• Work on making sure the worst doesn’t happen.
Aiki and Kiai – The Law of Attraction
• Kiai is the ability to bring all the universal energies to bear on one point so that we can accomplish a specific task. Aiki on the other hand, is bringing all the energy to bear on someone else to change his or her thoughts, behaviors or actions. By concentrating, we can bring into our life; elements, ideas or people to help us in a given area. By learning to project positive energies, we can bring into our lives those things that can help us become what ever we want to be, have or do. The warrior is a master of this tactic.
• We tend to attract people, behaviors and actions that are congruent with our thoughts and beliefs. Birds of a feather flock together they say. We are impacted by everything we do, see or hear. People we associate with have a huge impact on our successes. Winners carefully choose those that they spend time with and socialize with. Winners spend time with, and emulate, other success driven winners.
Kuzushi – The Art of Getting Back Up
• Even the most highly trained warrior occasionally loses his balance, overextends his reach, or gets distracted. He may miss a block, underestimate an opponent, or fail to set limits. The warrior understands that all his behaviors; methods, assumptions and conclusions may be mistaken. Therefore he trains himself to fall gracefully. He learns to make smooth transitions, through the unexpected, back to a state of dynamic balance. This way, the fall is not really a fall at all, but a graceful transition. The mental tactics are the same as the physical world in that rigidity leads to injury. Relax and go with the flow. When you slip, mentally or physically, acknowledge your error at the earliest possible instant, compensate as gracefully as possible, and then return to your original objective.
• When setting goals, recognize you are still totally at the mercy of reality. The process most certainly has some flaws to it. Do not be surprised when it doesn’t live up to all your desires. Expect it. Many times we are given challenges as learning opportunities for future success. Most self-made millionaires failed 18 times before they hit a home run. If one does his homework, and learns from each opportunity, then success will eventually come to him.
The Law of Belief
• The true warrior knows that whatever you can be believed can be achieved. Chi (Ki) can be used to heal the body or used to defend against hostile intentions. The first step in using one’s Chi is to learn how to relax the mind and program positive thoughts in to it. Any thought that you can consistently hold in your mind will become a reality. Whatever can be held in the mind, can be achieved. Act the part, if you feel positive you will be. Just pretend to be a certain way and in a few moments you will be. As Anthony Robbins says, “fake it until you make it”.
Setting Limits -The Law of Guilt Throwers and Catchers
• The civilian doesn’t set limits or boundaries but the warrior knows that setting limits is vital for personal survival. A warrior sets soft boundaries in some areas, hard boundaries in others. With soft boundaries, the warrior gives the opponent the benefit of the doubt. With hard boundaries, the parameters are dictated in black-and-white terms. He either violated the boundaries or he didn’t. At the very essence of this concept, it is vital to know what is essential and what is optional. He keeps his vital concerns at the center of his attention. He meets resistance at the intensity and quality level of the challenge.
• Everything we do is for love. A feeling of a lack of love usually leads to guilt, which we tend to throw blame on others. Refuse to be manipulated by guilt. “Excuse me, you are not trying to make me feel guilty are you?” Refuse to place blame on others, accept full responsibility and be accountable.