Begin With the End in Mind
• Sun Tzu wrote, “If you know yourself and know your opponent you will be victorious 100 battles out of 100 encounters.” The civilian comes into a situation not understanding himself or his opponent, and is assured defeat.
“Know thyself.” The true warrior knows his skills, weaknesses, values and priorities. He knows in advance what is worth fighting for and will never try to figure that out in the heat of a conflict. This knowledge is not inherited but must be gained through experience and self-examination. Knowing why you behave a specific way in certain situations is the basis of self-knowledge. The Chinese have a saying; “It is better to know the dragons within, than to suffer their affects unconsciously.”
• Before you can be successful, you must identify what it is you really want.
Many people set goals to be financially successful but once they have reached their goal, they realize that their family life has suffered. In goal setting, first identify your true values, and then do long range planning. Work backwards to quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily goals. Know what you want. Know what it is going to cost, and be willing to pay the price.
Put First Things First
• For the civilian, most conflicts are vague. He struggles like a boxer, fighting in the dark against unknown opponents. He stumbles and wastes his creative energy, unsure who his opponent really is. In some situations the target is clear.
If a person attacks you on the street, he is easily identified. In many situations, the attack is camouflaged and the attacker is unidentified. Many times the real problem is not what you see in front of you, but coming from another direction entirely. A warrior uses question likes, “Where is the actual threat?” The threat may not be a person, but a personality; not an individual but an attitude; not an organization but a policy.
• In identifying challenges for our growth, we start by identifying our core values and beliefs. Here are some things to consider:
• What are the five most important things in your life?
• In 30 seconds identify your top 3 goals
• What would you do if you won 1 million dollars?
• What would you do if you had 6 months to live?
• What have you always wanted to do, but have been afraid to attempt?
• Looking back over your life, what has brought you the most sense of importance and self worth?
• If there was one thing that you could have what would it be?
• All things are possible. How badly do you want it, and are you willing to pay the price?